I tend to agree with the majority of the posts. I used to spend a lot of time at Jack's day care when he was in the babies room (day care was right near work so I fed him every lunchtime, often spent time reading to him before leaving, or waiting there with him in the afternoon until DH finished work). The carers were amazing and treated the babies really well. They would never leave a distressed baby to cry (unless the parent had requested them to do so, which did sometimes happen). Jack used to refuse to sleep there as he hated missing anything. After I had fed him at lunchtime they would spend ages patting him, rocking him, whatever it took to finally get him to sleep. I was also so pleased to see their patience, commitment and geniune caring.

So I am sure that 5 minutes was pretty close to just that, and that her cries were more the self-settling kind than the distressed kind. However if you are unsure, why don't you talk to them about it some more when you are there next, and explain to them what you are and are not comfortable with. Once you have confirmed this with them you should be able to feel better about them looking after her the way you would.

Oh, and I agree totally with Ambah - they are different at day care to home - Jack actually slept really well at home!