Thanks again everyone for your kind and helpful comments and for your concern. I really do appreciate your input.

beanbeans you are totally right, of course, nothing is set in stone and I will assess the situation when I’m there. If it just doesn’t feel right, I won’t do it.

Peanutter, yeah, DH wants me to say goodbye, drive around the corner and change him into fresh clothes (and possibly burn the clothes he’s been wearing ).