going through this as well .....

I had a lot of bookks to read to DD1 about babies and becoming a new big sister.DD1 was thrilled to have daddy home for the first few weeks that she didn't seem to care about mummy and baby but now she really seems to want to be with mummy .
I am yet to do it by myself , but have a baby carrier on loan as bubby doesn't settle for sleeps in a bed which will free my hands up a bit. Every opportunity I have to cuddle kiss or just touch DD1 I takeand constantly tell her how much I love her. When my hands are free i use them to tickle or play toys with DD1.

I don't know if I am doing it "right"but I also try not to scold DD1 when she gets rough with DD2, nor do I tell her off when she has ripper tanties, I try to work out if she is frustrated or whatever and let her know she is allowed to feel like that.

hth somewhat

nae x