I think we've created a similar monster I too get so angry at DH and it's not all is fault. My DD is much younger than your DD but we're having the same issue, partly because for us if my DD wakes up until now she's been given a breastfeed. But at 10months i'd like to think she's not so hungry that she needs to feed every 3 hours. So i have recently started to settle if it's a little too soon for a feed and it's pretty much on me, she gets herself hysterical for DH and i have to lie there and listen to it. Sooner or later she gets what she wants because what is the point in us all getting into such a state?

It's a work in progress for us. I will keep trying to get DH to help out and hopefully sooner or later she'll settle for both of us. She won't go down for anyone at anytime of the day other than me.

So i don't have any real words of wisdom other than keep trying but with minimal fuss (if that's possible). Good luck