Have you had two kids close together and then an decent gap for the next?

[SamiH]

Like the title says..

So i've been contemplating leaving it for a few years... and having another when DD is 3.. so DS would be 4.5 and nearly at school....

But I dunno... I'm getting old..er........ and though I fell pregnant really easy with these two... might not the next time around..

Dunno.. dunno. DUNNO... someone just tell me what to do!!!!

Sounds perfect to me

When Zander was born, Riley was 5.5yrs, Giselle was 3.5yrs - Riley is wonderful and such a BIG help and just adores his little brother but not annoyingly so.

We had two angels between Giselle and Zander so were aiming for 2 yrs age gap again but something different was planned for us - and it is great. Not being a downer, but worth thinking of that too.

I conceived easily like you with all my pregs - and when Zander was conceived I was 36.5 (ssshhhhhhhhhhhh )

[AliBaby]

Growing up with my sisters there was an 18month age gap between my older sister and I and then another 5 years age difference between my little sister and I.

It was a lovely age gap. The 7yr age gap never stopped the eldest and youngest from doing things together and getting along. In fact they used to gang up on me alot (and yes I still suffer middle child syndromme because of it )

There was alot of fighting but I think that is normal between 3 kids esp 3 girls!!

Good luck planning your gorgeous family!

[Janie]

Mel, only you will know what will work best for your family. I'm a believer in the gap LOL, but hey, that's just what I think will be best for us. I am scared about having bad m/s again, I'm scared of having BFing difficulties again, etc etc, so I would rather wait until DS is a little older, like closer to 3. I know it will still be hard work, but I don't think I could handle it right now, he's still so dependent on me. And there is 3 years between my little bro and I, and we get along great I don't think a smaller gap would have made a difference.

FWIW, we have friends whose first two are 15 months apart, and the third was born four years after the second (TTC issues, though not age related). She (mum) can see the pros and cons. It was alot easier having the older kids, be well, older. They were more independent etc, able to get their own food and drinks. She does worry that the little one will be left out, but so far so good, and they are all at school now. I think at the time they were TTCing she was worried about the bigger gap, but once pg and then with a nb, she was happy about it LOL, as it did make things alot easier for her.

Just a thought, if it were me, I would definitely want my oldest TTd before the third came along - three in nappies does not appeal to me! Good luck Mel, maybe just take it as it comes, and see how you feel mid-year.

[Nicambhar]

My first two were 16 months apart and the 3rd came along just over 3 years later... I had a whingy first bub and even though the second one ( DD ) was a dream but I just couldn't deal with another so close again, I would have just lost my mind even though my DH at the time was just an amazing help. He got up to the babies every night and changed them and brought them to me to feed and then put them back to bed *sighs, why did we divorce PML*....

In saying that, I had mine really young and got pg pretty much straight away. 10 yrs later, trying to get pg with Bella resulted in a loss at 4 months pg and then 4 more m.c's and took nearly 2 yrs to get a sticky pg.

Big decision to make huh...

[SweetPea]

My 2 boys are 17 months apart and so far I'm loving the age difference, and would love a third as soon as possible! However I know once ds2 starts to move around things will get more of a handful. We took 19 months to fall pg the first time and the second time was a total surprise so I guess for us we'll just see what happens. We 'plan' on waiting till ds2 is 12 months before we actively ttc again, but if it happened before then it wouldn't be the worst thing! When I tell people I want more they think I'm mad! Good luck with your decision!

[sneakysparkle]

Mel - DH & I have been talking about this exact thing!
I think we are going to wait, so there is about 3 years between DD2 and #3
I think there are pros and cons to either choice!

[Arimeh]

Wow SS - then our kids will all be nearly the same age!! lol

I think I'm more inclined to do the 3 year gap.. but we've got a couple of things happening with us this year, so will see how it goes - if I don't kill DS in the meantime!!

[sneakysparkle]

Maybe we should put mr A and miss D together so they can annoy each other - I mean ENTERTAIN each other!

[Arimeh]

Wooooo I like that idea.. as toddlers.. not so much as teenagers

lol