No, I didn't lie. I was totally - and I mean totally - honest. Discussed worries and concerns. I also wasn't afraid to say "well, I'm OK with that so don't need advice there" or "I've done some other research and would rather wait for solids, although the advice is great for when we do start; what else can you tell me?" With sleeping, I said I wasn't going to CIO or CC. Every time. The HV suggested a few things half-heartedly, but was better when I said "porridge before bed? Sounds great, I'll try that one" because I was listening rather than writing off. In the end she'd say "How's his sleeping? I know you don't want to CC, right? So how about..." which was great for me.

Then again, my HV was/is a nice lady. We got on OK. I made her a coffee every visit (apparently you shouldn't because then they stay a long time... OK by me, I like company!) and chatted to her about how she was too.

BTW, I got a lot of lectures from random people in shops about "Is he good? Yes? When did he start sleeping through?" I had to change a lot of perceptions that "good" meant "sleeping through" - and that not sleeping through was OK because I not only was OK with it myself but expected it! I saw a few relieved looks on other mothers' faces when I turned round to walk out.