Get a sling or some sort of carrier stat! Or just stick with the bouncer. She'll have a new 'thing' within the next week or so.
And don't overthink things - if you're considering "shoulds" and "shouldn'ts" etc, then you're thinking too much.
This!

I would love to have an off switch for the "shoulds" people decide to tell us.

Can you transfer her bouncer to a quieter room if that would help her sleep longer? Otherwise just keep doing what you're doing...I always liked having DD close to me in the day. As others have said it wasn't utnil at LEAST 6 months that she started sleeping in her bed regularly during the day.