Thanks girls for ur replies, makes me feel alot better

Christy: I'll be seeing the CHN next week and will definately bring the subject up, apart from her speech, I really can't see anything else that would make them think shes any different. So best to talk to someone like a nurse about it

I still don't know how I'll approach my friend, really is upsetting that she had to go jeopardize our friendship in the way she did it. So I'll sit on it for a bit and when I'm ready to talk to her I will... Its just hurtful cos my DD gets on so well with both of hers.