fiona

i have had some experience with this and i sympathise so much. my first dd jessie was a terrible eater practically from when she started solids. i took her everywhere queen elizabeth centre (like tresillan) gp's and dieticians. one thing that i did which did work was create a snack box for throughout the day. in that box i put in all sorts of food cheeses, fruits, dry crackers, sultanas etc i also including 2 or 3 things she liked like sweet biscuits. each time she was hungry she would go to her snack box and get something (always the yummy things first) they ran out quickly so she had no choice as to eat whatever was left. this really worked well for us.

also at meal times i would serve her dinner and would eat with her - i didn't make an issue no nagging nothing and after 20mins if she had not eaten or was showing no interest i calmly removed the plate without saying anything (of course i never took it away if she was eating) she did get the idea that it wasn't upsetting me anymore and eventually she began to eat the evening meal quite well.

try also jotting down everything your son eats each day you will be amazed at how much he is eating. does he fill up on milk (that is one things my kids do tend to do) also try as hard as it can be not to make an issue cause it really can become a real power struggle and food is something to be appreciated and enjoyed not just eaten cause you need to iykwim.

good luck again and i truly know how frustrating the problem can be.