I think i might have jinxed myself, just had the 3rd rough night in a row. She sleeps in our room, and sometimes in our bed but i don't sleep as well (neither does she) cos if i move she wakes up again but every time we tried to put her back to bed she cracked it- and we were probably too tired to persist- and i don't want her going to sleep all worked up.

The only thing that helped me was finding ways to cope better, rather than trying to change him. We coslept a lot. We used the HAB (sooo hard wen you have stay upright and moving - DS was the same). I walked him to sleep. I timed outings for sleepy times.
This is what i have been doing, but i hoped she would start to find it easier to sleep. I find it easier when i don't have to stress about other people or making appointments- or trying to make sure she is in a happy mood for visitors or appointments. We also have a reno going on which is probably not helping either of us to be calm and content.

And being prepared to sleep with him - even if that meant lying down during the day with him. Power naps were the big problem. If he caught just a tiny cat-nap instead of a sleep, then it seemed to recharge the batteries for another 3 hours or so.

ETA - and Enya on repeat on a little cd player in his room.
Powernaps definitely an issue here. Although sometimes i would be happy with just a little powernap. She sleeps in our room, and i don't know if i could cope with Enya on repeat! I used to lay down in the arvo so that she would sleep, maybe i need to start them again. She had a sleep yesterday arvo on my lap and was happier for it.

I'm not saying that you're not trying to get her to sleep and I totally know what you mean about not fighting with her to go to sleep - if missy seems wide awake, I sometimes give it half an hour and try her again.
I'm not sure anymore which way to go. She will be tired and ready for a sleep, but i can rock her for an hour or so in the pram and look in and she will just giggle at me.

It is good to know that i'm not the only one with a non-sleeper. Good to remember when i am slowly losing my mind.