I am at my wits end. My DD has been absolutely full on the last two days. I am just so upset and crying this afternoon. She hasn't been any trouble for so long. She has these huge screaming fits and I don't yell at her or tell her "no", I just carry about my business and ignore it. She falls in a heap on the floor and screams at the top of her lungs (and cries while she is screaming). Tears running down her face, her eyes red, she dry reaches. I still ignore it, hoping she settles down. When I walk into another room, she'll start up again. I am really upset. DP is at work today (and yesterday), always happens when he is at work.
Is she tired? She has a 40min sleep AM and 40min sleep PM normally. She is starting to wake again through the night.
I really don't want her to grow up with anxiety issues. Maybe she already has anxiety because I won't pick her up and carry her around all day. I just can't physically, she's 1 year old and 14kilos!
Can anyone tell me that it happened to their child too? I am feeling like I am to blame for her behaviour.
Could she be sick? I know toddlers can really get the cranks if they've got something like an ear infection, particularly if it's caused by teething, cos it's like the double whammy. This might be why she's waking at nights too?
Does she have a temp? Maybe take her to a doctor, just so you can at least rule sickness out.
What a stressful time. Perhaps for now, just give her some extra tlc, reading books and playing with her and see if you can nut out what's wrong from her behaviour...
Hi Queenbee - you're not alone. At that age it's impossible to reason with them, I know... Hang on a sec I'll post back in a minute - just letting you know someone is here for you
My DS does that when he's not getting his own way. DS also gets particularly upset when he has ear infections (as Nell said) - he tugs at his ears a lot when he's in pain.
It's sometimes tricky to tell when they're teething too - I only use panadol as a last resort, and I don't know whether you'd be happy to do this but perhaps a half dose of baby panadol - and if she calms down after about 20 mins you can know that she is in pain instead of just being frustrated?
Good Luck Sweety - It does get easier if it is just behavioural, if that is the case you're doing the right thing - even though it's driving you insane
oh sweets . i sympathise .. DS is like this when he s over tired .. i often have days where i cry at him " what do you want , arent i good enough" i sob in a heap on the floor begging him to behave ..
I guess she is comig of age , and may be teething .. DS is getting his 2 yr olds and he is mr skitzo ..
I dont belive she will develop anxitey or anything like that , this is normal behaviour ..
esp if she is in a loving caring enviroment .. she will be fine ..
you gotta ride it out.. its dam flipping hard .. throw in a 4mth old and somedays i just crak it !!
its also HOT .. the weater turns kids sour ... maybe fill the bath and put a few drops of food couloring so she can play with some toys while you sit and have a cool drink (not suggesting alcohol) but a nice iced choc or something .. if DS is in the bath with courled water , you can find me rocking in a corner
awww hun is she teething???? i remember DD having tanties around the same age, i assume mostly due to frustration, communication is sooooo hard at this age
just reading toddler tactics they have
short attentions span
immature nervous systems (easily over stimulated by noise (tv, lighting))
variety of physical needs- hunger,tiredness,
food sensitivities
insatiable curiosity
clinginess also peaks at this age
hope some of this helps, will be back later, need to feed DD
Queenbee - i have days like that with my little one too and she isnt one yet! so i can't really help u - but im here if u wanna chat/vent - or a virtual shoulder to cry on!
Sounds pretty normal behaviour to me honey... she's getting to that age that she's starting to work things out - but doesn't yet know how to communicate it to you.
My DS had pretty bad tantrums - its thier way of communicating that they are overwhelmed by their emotions and dont know what to do. The best advice I was given was to do "time IN" that where you sit and hold them until they settle and then you can try and talk with them. Obviously at her age it will be very simple words to name the emotion - angry, sad etc. Also try to figure out what is setting her off, with my DS it was often my timetable not suiting his! Like I needed to get in the car by 9.00 and switching off his ABC kids and getting cranky if he too so long to get his shoes and get in the car. I then spaced out my time better and give him an earlier time frame ie "in a few minutes we need to ..." then he was calmer and so was I. Also dont try and get them to do anything mid cartoon or while TV is on.
Hope you find a solution.
Its not easy on anyone. Just to to remember that she is trying to communicate that she is overwhelmed at that time. I know you are too...
I feel for you queenbee Im going through the exact same thing with my DS and I know how tiring and frustrating it is when you cant pinpoint what they are crying about.
I think he has been teething and I took him to the docs for a checkup and discovered a few red blotches on his stomache which turned out to be some sorta virus going around, hes settled down a bit in the last couple of days I think another thing was boredom so Ive found new things for him to amuse himself with to keep the house peaceful.
Hang in there and Im sure its just a phase that will shortly pass and everything will be back to normal again soon.
HELP me...I can't handle this at the moment!
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Could she be sick? I know toddlers can really get the cranks if they've got something like an ear infection, particularly if it's caused by teething, cos it's like the double whammy. This might be why she's waking at nights too?
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