oh sweets . i sympathise .. DS is like this when he s over tired .. i often have days where i cry at him " what do you want , arent i good enough" i sob in a heap on the floor begging him to behave ..
I guess she is comig of age , and may be teething .. DS is getting his 2 yr olds and he is mr skitzo ..
I dont belive she will develop anxitey or anything like that , this is normal behaviour ..
esp if she is in a loving caring enviroment .. she will be fine ..
you gotta ride it out.. its dam flipping hard .. throw in a 4mth old and somedays i just crak it !!
its also HOT .. the weater turns kids sour ... maybe fill the bath and put a few drops of food couloring so she can play with some toys while you sit and have a cool drink (not suggesting alcohol) but a nice iced choc or something .. if DS is in the bath with courled water , you can find me rocking in a corner
girls, i thank you all so much for your support. it means heaps to me. all of you, thank you. she has been mighty cranky again today. it isn't really that she is sick i don't think (although i might take her to GP just to make sure), she just behaves badly when i put her down to do something, eg. she wakes up from a sleep, i give her a cuddle, i put her down to open the blind up and hang some of her clothes up, she screams. i then walk out to the next bedroom and put something in there, she'll really scream then. if i continue to ignore and walk away from her, she will get so upset she starts dry reaching, tears everywhere. if i pick her up, she's fine. if DP picks her up, she'll scream too sometimes, like she just wants me. maybe she just needs extra cuddles lately. two of her teeth came through today, a first molar at the top (the 4th final one) and a canine tooth. maybe it is her teeth but i always dose her up with nurofen on these days. ah well, hopefully it will get better in the next few days.
thanks again, i really appreciate you all being so lovely to me! i am a stressed out chick aren't i?
She sounds a little like DD in that after a sleep, she HAS to have a cuddle on my chest with her special pillow and both lovies too. If I end the cuddle too early for her, she gets very upset - I have to let her end it, though I can usually hurry it up a little if I make a suggestion about what she could do (eg. 'I see your favourite book over there. Why don't you go and read it?') rather than just put her down all of a sudden.
Honestly though, I love those moments with her and being slow to wake up myself, I know how it feels to be rushed in the process!
It's hard for young children to calm themselves once worked up - she probably really does need your help with this so she doesn't reach the retching stage. I have found getting down to their level and re-directing their attention to an interesting activity ('Is that a bug I see on the wall?' 'Oh, here's dolly and she needs to have a ride in the pram now' etc) can really help, and you don't have to give in to her tantrum, just take her mind off it.
It's a difficult time, and I think you're probably the odd one out if it's NOT happening to you at this age/stage! Hope you have a better day tomorrow.
i know i sound like a whinger. but i do take the time to give her a cuddle after a sleep. i will indeed direct her attention to something else. but of course when it is time to pop her down (i come down to her level and give her a favourite book) and tidy her room (she normally loves helping me do this), she will scream. i think maybe it is her teeth. she got two teeth through yesterday.
thanks everyone for your support with this. i just wasn't sure whether it was my DD or other people had experienced it. also, i was hoping i wasn't adding to some anxiety issue by not picking her up!
jols, i might google separation anxiety actually. do you know what age they have this up until normally? just interested to know.
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