Ok I found that book of yours Kazbah, on the net for cheap. I will talk to DH about getting it for me end of the month.

Rosehip - I am actually trying to do just that, BUT she as an extreamly strong will and that does not always help .. she will just go limp and lay there and I'll talk and talk and talk ....

I'll definatly check that book out too. And it's not that I don't allow hell to break loose in my house, hell's a regular around here currently It's just that I'm getting really tired of repeating myself over and over and over again ... I just had a really bad day yesterday and I KNOW I can't let her get away with just getting what she wants, because life is not like that.
I just need some comfort in the fact that I'm not alone .. It's not just me struggeling to get through the TT's.

This morning she refused to greet Kathy, for some unexplained reson she just did not want to say hello. And to me that is rude, not greeting someone. So DH took her to her room (no smacking) and she cried a bit, called to him, he went and got her, explained that she can come out the room if she says hi to Kathy, she said yes, they walked to Kathy and DH nudged her to greet her, she refused, DH turned her around to go back to her room while telling her that she must go back until she decides to greet Kathy, she quickly turned around and apologised to Kathy and greeted her nicely. So this worked this morning ...

My problem is that she is not sleeping well and I keep telling DH she is like this because she is tired and if I have to be really honest with myself I don't believe me and I have to admit that she is spoiled

This mothering stuff is really hard, fun and awsome, but hard and confussing