Leesa: theres no irritation, im sure MIL would have done her best to stop any water getting in, but i guess its hard not to, she did try getting her to put goggle on (which i bought some yesterday.. didnt work, i dont think she 'gets' what they do... maybe ill need to wear some in the shower, and show her i can let the water go on my face or something.

thanks girls.. i guess ill just keep trying, just so frustrating!