my ds was exactly the same!!

I first started him when he was 14months old when i first went back to work. I hated it, he would scream and cry everytime i dropped him off and it would break my heart!! this was only 2 days a week, and it went on for 2 months until i couldnt handle it anymore and just told work i could only do weekends as the cost of the childcare and what i actually brought in wasnt really worth it.
I was so happy when i took him out!

Anyway since then i have moved location, and im expecting baby number 2, so i started him off again at childcare again in beginning of december. I thought he'd get into it as being 2 1/2 now i thouight he'd love being entertained and playing with the other kids. And it would allow me to have a break, and get things i needed done, like the grocery shopping that i cant do with a naughty toddler!!!


However, for the first couple of weeks, things went ok, he got a bit upset when i left, but the teachers distracted him so much with lots of things going on he soon got over me going and when i would come to collect him he was so happy and had a great day. However, in those weeks something happened, cos they closed over christmas and when i went to return him in january everytime i pulled upto the daycare, he would scream and cry No mum! No no no no and be crying his eyes out! and ive also noticed an increased aggression towards other kids when he's playing at the playground, he hits them.

So i thoink something has happened at the daycare, and ive now pulled him out. As much as the carers were telling me "its just seperation anxiety"! i dont think they are right! i think something happned to him, he got into a fight or something because there's alot of other bigger kids there.


So anyway, its hard cos they cant tell you! I just think its a young age for them to be left without you! cos they cant talk properly and it must be so scary for them!
You just hope nothing bad will happen to them, and most of the time they should have good days and its good to have a break from each other!!

I think my little boy will be more ready to go at 3 when he's grown up a bit more.

You gotta weigh up wether the time you have him in the daycare is worth it?
Are you working on that day?or is it just for a break for you?
And is it really good for you to have that time away from you? if so then, i'd keep perceivering with it, cos you said he does have good days its just that first initial leaving him/saying goodbye that upsets him.

But you'll know when and if to pull him out, if he screams so much to the point where you gotta drag him in (like my son did) then its not a good idea to keep him at a place where he is unhappy, as i believe it affects there behaviour and personality.

And they do say, the first 4 years of a childs life, frames who they are for the rest of there life. As this is the rapid time of brain development and developing personality.