girls, you just do it. I don't know how to describe it. You learn what to do, when, how to make it easier on u, how to deal with the toddlers, how to shut off when u need to (like when ur BF'ing and the toddlers are arguing over a toy) and u give lots of time outs. Consistency is the key. Set boundaries and stick to them. I love it and my newest is only 4wks old. My oldest only 3.5yrs. It's hard at times, I pull my hair out at times. But it is so rewarding and you learn the tricks of the trade along the way. ATM Dh is OS for business so I am doing it by myself. It's not easy, but nor is it terribly hard. And you just have to cope, so you do. And u learn to ask for help/advice when u need it. I would still like another one or two, but thinking I'll wait till Bry is 3 so my girls are in school hehehe. That's the hardest part for me. Entertaining two toddlers 4 days a week by myself. Love pre-school day. I get one on one time with my new man hehehe