Thanks girls. I'm feeling a bit better now - my milk is in and feeds are starting to get better. We've started co sleeping when things get too hard and DS2 decides he needs to be with me after a feed at 1 or 2 am and won't settle. He's a chuckier baby than DS1 (whose chucks we could count on 1 hand) so maybe just takes a bit longer to settle after that feed than I remember DS1 needing. At any rate he's a little hot water bottle in bed with me on these cold nights. My mum has arrived like a knight in shining armour and if it weren't for her I'd never be feeling human. Fingers crossed it keeps going better from here. At least this time around I know there's no such thing as the cuddle police!!