They probably could - I'd be more inclined to treat her with stuff to help her adjust to the recent changes so she could calm herself down.
BUT firstly I'd recommend the earlier bedtimes, cutting out things like strawberries and grapes (possible causes for being unable to wind down, check out the Sue Dengate Website).
Give it 2 weeks to change and commit to staying in there for a little bit longer stroking her back or whatever. If she bounces up to play and get all goofy, shush her and tell her to lie down again - all very gently and kindly. Don't respond to cuteness or her trying to engage you all over again. Say the same words - and only those words - to her. Shuuush now, time to sleep.
She will get it and it might be a bit frustrating but WOW - when you get to the point when she will go to sleep within minutes you feel like a FREAKIN CHAMPION and it somehow changes your life
Do the 2 week thing - and if you feel like it, go check the old parenting debriefing section and you can see how bad it got for dd and I. I thought I would DIE of frustration and lack of sleep....
IM gonna say it only cause I use to stay up until 2 - 3 am with W and then he would be up bouncing of the wall's at 6am
I was a walking zombie...I tried EVERYTHING until he was 3 1/2. My pead and doctor both told me to get some Valergane for him. I used 5ml at 5.30pm and put him to bed at 7 and BANG he slept through until 6 the next morning As the doc and Pead said its training your child to get into a sleep mood...so I did it for 5 days and OMG the sleep I got..the first night I was still awake because my body had gotten use to it lol.
Valergane is different to Phernergan. Phernergan is for allergies were Valergane is more a seditive.
No I dont agree in giving children drugs...but my sanity was on the line and I had to do what I had to for my sanity. I also went on doctor's advice and IM thankful I did.
Good luck hon...sleep deprevision is horrible for kids once their in that runt its hard to get them out of it
i have found not having the tv on in the evening(wind down time starts at 5 ish) helps alot. once its off they have to process what they have seen, this usualy means they are a bit more "active"if it has been left on til later..
Arimeh - Have you heard of Rescue Remedy? They have a kids formula and it helps to settle down anxiety and sleeplessness. There are other Bache Flower remedies too, all of these are available at your Health Shop. However because you DD is under 2yo they may not recommend anything.
Also I remember DD2 wen't through some thing like this around 15 to 18 months and I couldn't get her down before 9pm. I just kept the 7.30 to bed routine. Bed, book, song and kisses. After that I gave her no attention but to tell her to lie down and go to sleep (softly, not like a dog as my DH seems to do). If I knew she didn't need me anymore I'd just leave her to drop.
Yeah I've heard of rescue remedy, I used to use it for my panic attacks.
She's getting worse now - its affecting her daytime sleeps as well. However, she seems to drop off quicker if we let her cry a little (which I absolutely HATE doing) but she seems to cry for about 2-5 minutes (just a whingy sort of cry, not screaming) and then goes quiet and she's usually fallen asleep.
Maybe us being in there with her is too much a distraction and WE are the problem, not a solution? Who knows. She had a small cry before when she went down for her nap, and then all went quiet, and she had fallen asleep. Much better than the 30 minutes it has been taking to get her down during the day.
At night it doesn't work AS well though, but if she stuffs around too much wanting to party, I usually walk out of the room and she cries for 2 minutes, and then I go back in. Maybe I need to let her cry/whinge for 5 minutes? I hate the thought of letting her cry it out without me, but I also hate the thought of being the "problem" and why she can't switch off?
sometimes the crying is how they wind down. If it's not a screaming distressed cry, and it's only for a couple of minutes I'd say it would be ok yeah?
RR is good for emergencies so not really the remedy for this, but change the routine around a bit and see how that goes first. Are you putting her down easlier at night?
DD can be so over tired and take for ever to go to sleep , and actually stay asleep . i know how it feels , I have been seeing a dietician for other reasons and she suggested calcium tablets or tissue salts . the calcium makes the hormones that makes you sleepy . Worked much better than phnergan (gp gave us a script and wouldnt help us) as DD wouldnt react to the phenergan , not even a yawn , but the calcium does , i crush it and put it in her bottle .....
Maz dont worry i have been to hell and back with both my kids and sleep , DS had me nearly in the nut house , the gp gave me sleeping pills and ds phernagan and it worked wonders too ... ds woulndt go to bed before 11 some nights !!
intolerances are hard to diagnose unless there is a reaction , i had DD on the "fed up" diet and it helped with her crying for what seemed like no reason . and woke up to 10 times a night , now she'll sleep through unless shes eaten something shes intolerant too ... then the screaming starts . !!
dont worry about the crying 2-5 mins isnt bad at all , its a way of "getting things off their chests" its good for them , the release of the day is gone after a big whinge and they can settle to go to sleep . some babies bang their hear etc . sometimes if one of mine is feral i just hold them and not try to stop the tears , i just know when they need to let it out ... maybe its her way of clousre for the day ?
its not like she has a husband to take it out on yet , so its gotta come out some how
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As the doc and Pead said its training your child to get into a sleep mood...so I did it for 5 days and OMG the sleep I got..the first night I was still awake because my body had gotten use to it lol.
once their in that runt its hard to get them out of it
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