How do you say this nicely?

[MummyNaomi]

It's the same when you're pregnant with your first baby and people who have had kids say "Oh, just wait until you're a parent, you'll know what it's like." So infuriating!!!!!!!

I hate this too!!!

Some people just suck. We spent Grand Final Day at some of DHs friends and I took my baby monitor as DS was sleeping in their bedroom in a portacot and I was worried I wouldn't hear him wake and they had a few digs at me as a first time parent for using the monitor and made comment that eventually he'd cry loud enough for me to hear him when he woke - it annoyed me as I didn't want DS waking up in a strange room and freaking out or crying and me not hearing him until he starting screaming, I'd wanted to go in when I heard him stirring as I knew he would get upset otherwise - I knew what was right for my baby!

[whoops]

I would just say "don't use me an an excuse to make yourself feel better about being lazy" and *snap*

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

Aaagh - I was told by people I needed a monitor in my 2-bed maisonette with DS just 5 yards away from me, in another room. You can't do anything right as a parent except for slap down anyone who tells you as much. FWIW, I fail to see what I "know" now more than I did three years ago, well maybe I know that crocodiles roar now. I'm the annoying woman who said how I would parent, stuck to it and have a (mostly) lovely child to show for it. Just shows how important it is to do your homework LOL.

I understand my son is more important than my social life... thankfully most of my friends don't comment to the contrary any more!

[MummyNaomi]

LZ - re the monitors, it seems we are damned if we do and damned if we dont - you cant please everyone!!

[Lulu]

"oh you are such an OLD hand at this"..... *snarky offering from Lulu

That craps me off to the max, I had friends reassurring me then, not giving me crap...and I pass it on by reassuring other new mums too...even if it was so long ago for me.

[luna moth]

Duuuude, I get this with my nephew. SIL laughs at how jumpy I am. Once, I responded with "50% of the children's neuro ward are there because TVs fell ont heir head. The other 50% are brain tumours. If I'm going to see a child go there, it'll be because of something I couldn't have stopped."

FFS I have worked in childcare for 10 years! Hanging out with one year olds is what I DO! I've actually been doing it for 9 years longer than her...

But then she gets really hung up if his morning sleep is only 40 minutes. The priorities astound me.

So.... a little off-topic anyone? Sorry...

Anyway, hun, blow it off. Be a first time mum. If you're happy, that's all that matters, I bet they are jealous as pants at how simple your life is compared to theirs, and how lucky you are to have such a precious little one.

[~Serenity~]

I hate when you say your tired etc and you get "welcome to parenthood" I got it today ummm hello I have 4 Kiddies I'm pretty much welcomed and probably overstayed it too.....