Thanks so much everyone for your detailed replies - I can definitely get some good mental pictures of the different ways it can be done now. I guess I'll just have to see how we go. My brother and SIL started co-sleeping with their new baby, but my brother accidentally elbowed him in the head (not hard, but enough to scare my brother) one night, so that was the end of that.

I'm also usually a heavy sleeper, but would imagine that I would be fairly alert if my baby was in the bed with me. I guess it'll also depend on what DH is comfortable with.

Liz - good to hear some feedback on the arms reach co-sleeper. It does sound like a good compromise. I started wondering about the co-sleeping because of the idea that the baby can help regulate his breathing from his mum's breathing. But I imagine that that would require mum and baby to be closer than the arms reach allows.

I think I might get an arms reach just in case, but be open to trying out the co-sleeping in the same bed, and we'll see what works for us.

Thanks again, very helpful.

Devon
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