Oooh, you ladies are putting me to shame! I seriously don't know how I get stuff done. Sometimes I just don't. DH isn't a great help, I work 3 days/week and we go to 2 playgroups. Basically, I do stuff when Natty is asleep or when she is really engrossed in a game or a DVD or when DH is home and entertaining her (not very often!). But I certainly can't schedule stuff in... I just do it when I can. And if stuff hasn't been done then I usually get it done on Sunday when I know DH is home and I make sure he is looking out for Natty.
It is kind of upsetting, actually. This morning I came downstairs to find my kitchen overrun with ants. I was gutted because I thought I'd left everything clean and tidy, but one solitary cup that had cordial in it had been left on the sink and aparently that's all it takes.
Ah, so sorry to take over your thread with my whining! I just find it tough sometimes.

ETA: DH irons his own shirts. I don't iron anything.