How to get 3yo DD in the bath

[Olive]

I suggest you go together and have fun and play at the local pool.

[nothing2lose]

What about a shower nozzle thingo that attaches to your bath tap. She can hold it and direct it herself. Giving her the control might help

[Artechim]

Sounds like you have a fair way to go in regards to teaching her to get her hair wet. Does she have fun at the pool? Swim classes are good for teaching them gently to get their head wet.

BTW, I don't think you or she is disgusting at all. In fact, the hair wash screaming is not a small part of why our family is shampoo free. Mine don't mind getting their hair wet with water though, so they get a rinse in the shower or bath most nights. I ran out of shampoo around last October and it has been fine (except one unfortunate incident of lip gloss though the toddlers hair at christmas time but gran had some shampoo with her).

[Heaven]

I don't think not washing hair is gross, I only wash my kids hair if they go swimming to get the chlorine out. But the cradle cap does sound like it needs to be dealt with, and she needs a daily bath to wash everywhere else. What I would do is make the bath as fun as possible for a while until she gets used to it. At least then she's getting washed and you can then try deal with the hair.

You could try:
Food colouring in the water.
Cut out craft foam shapes she can stick on the wall and make things (I have done blue water with white foam 'icebergs' and sea animals, or pink water and cut out flower shapes to decorate the wall, etc).
Bath paint, crayons.
Even use washable paint yourself and paint the bath and make a little world with figurines to play with and no water and let her play in it during the day and get used to the bath.
Glow sticks in the bath.
etc.

ETA- I just googled and there is a whole website called 'bathactivitiesforkids' with tons of ideas.