*deep breath* DDs weren't so bad initially. She seemed to work her way into them. Thankfully the real ones are few and far between! We have had 2 massive massive tantrums in about the last 12- 18 months. The littler ones I could ask her to tell me whats wrong, ask her if she needs a hug, ask if I can soothe her in someway ie rub your back or just wait until its over. The HUGE ones I couldnt do a damn thing about. Everytime I opened my mouth or looked at her it made it worse . The 2 big ones we have had lasted about 35 minutes And yeah, I feel pretty darn great about them

ETA: DD was about 2.5 at the time of the 2 big tantrums.