There's a groove? DS2 is 14 weeks and we still haven't quite got it, however as he gets older it is slowly but surely getting easier, having said that we still, quite oftenly, have our 'moments' DS1 loves attention and with DS2 being a huge Velcro baby and having reflux and wind issues he isn't the happiest baby so poor DS1 gets neglected a little, and being only 17 months old he doesn't understand why but as I said, with DS2 getting older and being able to interact more, and us being able to see the signs of wind, reflux, tiredness ect. quite easily and therefore being able to settle him quicker, it's easier to handle them both. You just do what you have to do because, well, you don't have another choice. I work everything else around their naps, so when they are awake I can give them my undivided attention. DS1 naps once a day for at least an hour and DS2 still has 3 or 4 decent naps a day so they tend to sleep at the same time at least once so that's when I get in a little bit of cleaning, dishes done/dishwasher stacked and dinner on the go, but always make sure I have some 'me' time, even just 15 minutes to sit and do nothing, regenerate for the afternoon shenanigans. And I also rely on my hubby and mum a lot as much as I hate to admit it because it makes me feel some what like a failure, but I definately appreciate their help. I agree that carriers have been my lifesaver, means DS2 is happy coz he's being held and I have 2 hands free for DS1. I'm also a lot more confident the second time around, even though DS1 had no issues and was a happy bub and still is. He also makes it easier by being able to play with his toys or read books as I feed DS2 and he puts himself to sleep so that's something else I don't have to worry about. It definately would be ALOT easier if DS2 was just as cruisey