How long did it take for you to find your groove with second baby?

[Shanti]

I found my way VERY quickly 2nd time around

Like most people, i was apprehensive as to what lay ahead but very quickly found myself finding it really cruisy! There is always that initial adjustment to get used to life with 2 kids instead of 1 and making sure your first born doesn't feel left out etc but we all found DD2's addition to the family very smooth sailing and she has been a VERY cruisy baby too which has helped. I am way more relaxed 2nd time around, we haven't' had feeding problems like we did the first time around, it's just been SO much easier!! Number 2 just seems to fit into the family so easily because you have already gone through the whole life adjustment the first time around, so having already one child you know what having kids is all about.

So much easier, that I started up my own internet business when DD2 was only 3mths old!!!

I hope it's just as easy for you

[OceanPrincess]

I reckon a few weeks. You know my DD - she is quite high-energy and I wanted things to remain as "normal" as possible for her, so DS was born Thursday morning and Tuesday I was at my normal Tuesday playgroup, Wednesday playgroup, visit at mum's Thursday and Friday music. DD needed her little routine, that was important to us. That and I wanted to show DS off I had a few visitors over the weekend but by the time Monday rolled around, I was ready to get back into things with her.

He was pretty cruisey in those early days - most newborns are - he was hungry, so he spent a lot of time being fed, and he was unsettled a bit, so spent a lot of time in the bouncer while we were at home, but he also put himself to sleep in his cot one day while I was getting ready to go out, when he was about 5 days old. Had a grizzle but DD was having a tantrum so he got ignored and by the time I got to him, he'd gone to sleep. Bless! I also borrowed a sling off Det (thanks Det!) which we used HEAPS while out and about, and a HAB, which we used not as much, and had my trusty Ergo. Have you got carriers hun?

He didn't ark up until DD was older, which was wonderful. Couldn't have handled two of them being terrors at the same time! Oh wait - that's my life currently!!

One of the biggest things I reckon to work out now is who looks after whom at night time. During the day, esp with your DD who is pretty self-sufficient during the day, you'll be fine - bubs cries, tend to bubs. Tell DD what is happening, ie if she wants you attention while you are involved with bubs, you'll be able to say "DD, baby needs me right now, I will be right with you as soon as I have finished doing X." and she will most likely get it.

Nights, different story. DH and I made the decision that I would tend to baby and he would tend to DD overnight. He adjusted quite well I have to say, and was even waking up when she cried without me elbowing him in the ribs!

[Miss.September]

Bless! I also borrowed a sling off Det (thanks Det!) which we used HEAPS while out and about, and a HAB, which we used not as much, and had my trusty Ergo. Have you got carriers hun?

I've got a caboo on order. Hopefully will keep me going for a little while.

These experiences are great. Thanks for sharing them all. DD is usually a chilled out kid, but I'm expecting some upheaval with her when bub is here. I'm really hoping we can get into things asap.

[wysiwyg]

Also I remember saying to my dad in the early days about how I felt bad because with DS he was often handed over to them so I could do stuff with DD, or left sleeping and not cooed over etc etc - and my dad made a good point that all the time you are feeding a new born, cuddling them to sleep etc they are having the contact with you that they need, when they are feeding they are close to you which is what they want - the fact you might be reading their elder sibling a story at the same time etc doesn't matter to them. They will adore their sibling and although their early days may be quite different to that of your first child, they are not any worse off is just different (the amount of joy the baby gets from their elder siblings is enormous - sometimes I am a bit jealous of how DS is with DD - if she is about that is where his eyes are, and she extracts the best giggles from him and always has :-))