Ds doesn't self-settle. I wouldn't have him any other way! I love our special time together at bedtime. It only takes 10 minutes for him to go to sleep once the lights are out (after bath and story and prayers) - I love having him go to sleep holding my hand, with me singing a lullaby I made up or telling him how much I love him. It's great to have that time!

At 3-4m I would have loved him to self-settle. But now I see the positives of him not doing so and I'm so much more relaxed about it and enjoy it more.

I also love bed rather than cot - 5.30 this morning I could just call "come through here darling" and have DS totter through and was lifted into bed, back to sleep for another 2 hours. Result. I stay warm.