Thankyou to everyone with advice and suggestions. I appreciate it.

He's still the same and his day sleeps are getting bad too. He's taking an hour or more to get to sleep, especially for DH. It's driving us bananas! I will soon have to deal with it on my own some nights, because DH is going to be going back onto afternoon/night shifts, so maybe 3/7ish nights I will have to do this by myself, oh the joys! So not looking forwards to it. DD is great and I am lucky I can leave her watching a movie to do it, but I have never had to leave her for so long. I'm worried about leaving her by herself for so long. Plus I just feel neglectful in doing it! She does come in if she has a problem though, so she knows I am there and I will help her if she's got an issue (like freaking out when she saw a huge locust in the loungeroom, which I don't blame her for, lol!), which is a very rare occurance at DS's bed time, she's such a good girl.

I am at a loss as to what to do. We decided to give DD her own room and not to have her share with DS anymore. That seems to have helped her get to sleep quicker and she doesn't wake DS in the mornings anymore either, so he's usually up about 15-45mins later than her. He HAS to have his day sleep. I don't think he's ever missed it and I am not going to cut it out. He's often feral by the time he has his nap, so I don't think cutting it out is the answer. We have made his nap time later in the day though, from about 11.45/12ish to about 12.30/1ish. And we have pushed his bed time to 7.30 because it's still so light here then, it's usually just starting to get dark then. We have thick plastic backed curtains and a roll down blind in his room, but it is still fairly bright. But it's not totally dark until about 8.15/30 and that is just oo late for him to go to bed. I don't know if he's not getting enough sleep or he's getting too much. I'm just totally confused! We have the same routine for them though with dinner, bath, tv, books, bed.

I'm also worried about when the baby comes. Especially when DH is on night shifts. There's just not enough of me to go around! I will be cosleeping with baby and hopefully bfing him too, and DS still cosleeps as well, so I have no idea how that will work...hopefully in the next few weeks we figure out some sort of routine that works for him.