NO help for first six months.... then parents moved down and i get alot of help, but don't really need it - but it is nice.... DH and I now both work, and the other night DD was up until 530am, and of course i was too..... even though we are both working there is no way in hell he would tend to her in the night.... i do it all and thats just the way it is. you have to get in early and train them.... i've left it too late so am doomed for eternity