How to un-stick a super velcro baby? Vent & Advice please

[JLeigh29]

I still spend 90% of my time within 2m of DS....whenever he plays, I have to be in the same room, the same side of the room in fact! I fold washing on the lounge as well as the usual 'time wasters'!!

I would be working on getting The Man and The Man's Boy helping more...it's not acceptable in my opinion to be part of a household and not contribute fairly. Does he know how you feel? What happens when you straight out ask him to take DS, help with tea or wash up? Can you set up a rewards chart/pocket money dependent on TM's Boy helping? And TM can 'choose' his jobs so he feels like he's getting a say....

It also sounds like you want to make some moves towards changing DS's sleeping habits....find an approach you're comfortable with and go from there. It's slow going, but if it means your sanity is saved, you'll be a happier and therefore better Mum

The crèche is a good idea. Enjoy the hour of 'me' time! If The Man is home all day, can he take DS outside/to the park/at home while you shop/get a coffee/get your hair done/have a bath etc? It sounds like some more time out would make it easier to cope with the inevitable times when DS is stuck to you!

FWIW, I too think you're doing an amazing job

[nickle730]

I have nothing to offer but my sympathy! I too have made a 'rod for my own back' (yes, thank you old ladies for your wisdom!) and my nearly 3 year old is still as velcro as they come. We co-sleep and she won't go to bed without me. Drives me bananas. Can't wean her because she cracks the sads and I eventually give in - she helps herself overnight and can even work around a tight sports bra. At least these days she gets the toilet paper for me, so she's useful when she comes to the toilet with me -every single time.

The only time she doesn't need to be on me is at the shops - where she like to bolt.

I love her, I really, really love her. But sometimes I just want her to GET OFF ME.

[JLeigh29]

The only time she doesn't need to be on me is at the shops - where she like to bolt.

Yes! Why do they need to be within 3mm at home yet Are happy to bolt when you go out?!