"I don't want you in here"

[{sarah}]

just sending hugs - I still like you - even if he doesn't think that he does

Aww thanks Taff

Don't worry Jas, it is pretty funny once it's all over

I went back in ten minutes later & he said he wanted to ring daddy. So I told him when he could talk in a nice voice without shouting he could come out & ring daddy. So we did.... Daddy gets on the phone & he bursts into tears "I don't want daddy, I need my mummy." and climbed onto my lap for a cuddle. OH MY GOODNESS!!!! Could've strangled him LOL! Now ever since (about an hour I guess) he's been perfect.

Like I said before.... The joys of having a pre-schooler

[Bathsheba]

Yep, my 4yo said similar things when he was 3yo... I found that it was often mimicking what others (his older sister and DH) had said to him.... things like "you're a poo-head" (charming, I know, courtesy of 12yo DD) and "Nick off" (DH at his worst) *sigh*. It's so saddening to hear my sweet little boy speaking that way and I have very little control.

I think half the reason they say these things is to test your reaction... when it was said to them it obviously hurt them... they don't know how to deal with that hurt so they are looking for ideas (all subconsciously) so they repeat them to you (who in his eyes holds all the solutions to the world's problems! ). So, I think it may have been said to him at some stage... and the way you deal with it could be the way you would like him to deal with it. Maybe just stopping what you are doing, making eye contact and clearly saying that you don't like it and if he persists just escorting him to his room (all done in a neutral, calm demeanour). I guess you could just walk off and ignore him, but that would be essentially doing what he demanded.

Anyhow, just my thoughts, always the amateur psychologist! LOL :P

[Jas]

aww Sarah, thats a bit cute at least he made you feel special after being a meany

[~Jo~]

I think its hard when they cant really verbalise alot of their emotions. When Sammy says anything like that we tend to say..awww looks like you arent feeling too happy right now and tend to probe a bit. Little things that can put them off. Glad hes ok now though sweet little man.

Jo