"I don't want you in here"

[{sarah}]

So how would you deal with that comment?? Said over & over & over....

I was happily sitting here on BB when Zander got up from his rest about 1/2 an hour ago. He laid on the floor & kept kicking the lounge so I asked him stop it. Then out of nowhere he started repeating it.... "I don't want you in here." So I told him I was staying here & if he'd like to go play somewhere else then fine, he could do that but he needed to stop saying it because it's not nice. Nope, he just ignored me & kept going. So I told him if he didn't stop saying it he'd have to go to his room (moreso because it was annoying and repetitive than what he was saying!). He continued, so now he's in his room.

But the repetitve whine then changed "I need my daddy" shouted very loud & in almost crying voice, though he's not crying. To which I told him, daddy is at work he has to have me or nothing. "NOTHING!" Then the whine continued..... It's driving me crazy, but I told him until he can stop shouting & come out being a nice boy to mummy then he'll have to stay in his room. So far, he's in his room.....

Aah the joy of having a pre-schooler.

[Arimeh]

Sarah - hon I feel for you.
Wanna do a swap ? Mine won't leave me alone, even on the toilet. No-one else is good enough at the moment only mummy!!! Even if daddy has just come home from work - nope.. still want mummy even after having her all DAY.
Thats my solution. You have my brat... I'll have your sweet little man

[StrawberryMumma]

You poor thing, gosh that's a tricky one isn't it! Sounds like you dealt with it really well though!

I bet a thousand other mums can relate to your scenario..hang in there..deep breaths lol

[StrawberryMumma]

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[Muppity]

just sending hugs - I still like you - even if he doesn't think that he does

[{sarah}]

just sending hugs - I still like you - even if he doesn't think that he does

Aww thanks Taff

Don't worry Jas, it is pretty funny once it's all over

I went back in ten minutes later & he said he wanted to ring daddy. So I told him when he could talk in a nice voice without shouting he could come out & ring daddy. So we did.... Daddy gets on the phone & he bursts into tears "I don't want daddy, I need my mummy." and climbed onto my lap for a cuddle. OH MY GOODNESS!!!! Could've strangled him LOL! Now ever since (about an hour I guess) he's been perfect.

Like I said before.... The joys of having a pre-schooler

[Bathsheba]

Yep, my 4yo said similar things when he was 3yo... I found that it was often mimicking what others (his older sister and DH) had said to him.... things like "you're a poo-head" (charming, I know, courtesy of 12yo DD) and "Nick off" (DH at his worst) *sigh*. It's so saddening to hear my sweet little boy speaking that way and I have very little control.

I think half the reason they say these things is to test your reaction... when it was said to them it obviously hurt them... they don't know how to deal with that hurt so they are looking for ideas (all subconsciously) so they repeat them to you (who in his eyes holds all the solutions to the world's problems! ). So, I think it may have been said to him at some stage... and the way you deal with it could be the way you would like him to deal with it. Maybe just stopping what you are doing, making eye contact and clearly saying that you don't like it and if he persists just escorting him to his room (all done in a neutral, calm demeanour). I guess you could just walk off and ignore him, but that would be essentially doing what he demanded.

Anyhow, just my thoughts, always the amateur psychologist! LOL :P

[Beatrix]

Another mum heere who can def relate to what you are going through.

My eldest is at that stage, everything is re[eated over and over again and she back chats!!Her favourite saying atm is fine then, or i dont like you/your not my friend,

lately she has been spending alot of time in her bedroom.

I just try to ignore it most of the time but if it gets to much i put her in her room.

hope its just a bad day for him.

[Jas]

lol I'm sorry I just have to laugh! I haven't got to that stage yet so I can still have that reaction!

Sorry probably not a ver yhelpful post

[MantaRay]

Sarah, are you sure Zander and Jack aren't twins? Jack does the same thing when he's upset, although now that DH is the primary carer, he usually does it in reverse (wanting me instead of Daddy).

The other time he says "go away" is when he wants to do something naughty!

[Antheia]

Lily is also in a stage of continually repeating things in a whingy/screaming voice. Things like 'don't want daddy' 'don't want you'(to me) 'don't like charlie' don't want this, don't want that. But she will just keep saying it over and over, getting louder and louder. I've tried ignoring but that is worse cause she will just continue and it drives me up the wall. I send her to her room but she just keeps shouting it and you can hear her all over the house. I can't get away from it lol. I dont have any advice but you're not alone!