Jordie, don't feel bad, you're only human hun! You're learning to be a parent and can only go on the advice that's given to you, especially when you have clearly been worried and asked for information/advice before now. Also if you're going to blame anything then blame the overloaded health system that was quite happy to make you wait until December before giving you some specialist advice and the parenting centre that waited a month to call you!
The important thing is that you have taken the steps that you need to take now, the window of opportunity is still open, and you will get the information and help that you need. The people at the hospital will be very specialised and will be able to give you very specific help. It will be a load of worry off your mind once they have identified what is causing the reactions and also once you have a plan on how to tackle the eating end of things.
Be kind to yourself sweetie. xxx and
Let us know how you get on today.
Jordie hun, big hugs. You haven't done anything wrong sweets. Really you haven't. She is only just coming up to 1 yo now, that is NOT too late to start solids. If she was ready for them earlier she would have been eating already. Please don't feel bad.
As for the allergy, I know what you mean. DS1 had a rash the first time he had yoghurt and I was devastated as it was literally the first thing he would eat. Luckily he can now eat yoghurt fine, but he was about 15 months before that happened.
I hope you get to see someone really helpful now who can give you the answers you want. Please try not to worry.
Hi Jordie
I just saw this now - how did you go at the Dr?
I just wanted to say, please do not feel bad or blame yourself - I can tell from all your posts what a wonderful and caring mum you are, and your DH sounds great too. YOu have consuklted so may ppl about this and get differing advice, and you know what they are prob all right, bc there just isnt one right answer. I hope you can choose a professional and go with them all the way, just follow their guidelines if they are someone you trust - bc all the conflicting info is just going to make you feel worse. You so have not missed the boat or anything like that, she is just coming up to 12 months and she sounds really healthy and happy. I really know that it will all work out. Be kind to yourselves you have done so well til now and are always looking out for her best interests - she is lucky to have parents like you.
Hi all, I totally agree with Kirsty lee,it`s tough being a parent,and every baby/child is so different,we have had 5 bubs and they are all so different,our 2 year old has just been diagnosed lactose intolerant and after 6 months of tummy upsets,bad sleep patterns and vomitting,we have got this sorted now,my husband and i were tearing our hair out,sometimes we don`t have all the answers,but we can only do our best,and thats all we can do. Now we are having teething problems with our youngest,who doesn`t want to sleep.
Jordie,you and your partner are good parents,don`t let people tell you other wise,believe in yourselves.
Thank you to everyone who wrote kind thoughts - I really appreciate your support especially when you're feeling down on yourself!! I know that we are doing a good job but it's just so confusing sometimes.
We saw doc who was very nice and she agreed that we should see allergist and paediatrician but she wasn't as overly concerned as lady from parenting centre. Luckily we got into paed tomorrow as someone else cancelled. They are at Royal Childrens and hopefully we can also see allergist there - doc faxed referral today.
Mackenzie is fine - the antihistmaine worked and her rash has settled again. We now just have to find out a: what allergies she has and b: continue with food and possibly supplements. I hope we can start trying with foods again soon without worrying about allergies - bugger cause she actually enjoyed that smoothie!
Last edited by JordieC; August 28th, 2008 at 10:12 PM.
Jordie, I am so glad you are feeling better. We all know you are doing an awesome job hun, so please try not to be hard on yourself. Best of luck for tomorrow.
Jordie I dont have any words of wisdom, just wanted to give you a hug darl
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I know that we are doing a good job but it's just so confusing sometimes.
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