would he listen to you if you made him his own little shopping list? You could cut out pictures during the week of a few things you need to get and it can be his job to find them and either carry them himself or put them in the trolley? Don't know if he is old enough to understand that but it may help?
Our boys are exactly the same age and my DS is exactly the same, he just won't listen, the only difference being he behaves quite well when out and about, but once we are home wow he's so different! It's like he changed overnight into a little devil child. I think it must just be an age thing. I hope they grow out of it soon!
Two suggestions: Coles Online, and: know that you are not alone.
I became a screamer with my third child. Possibly it was because of my thyroid condition (makes me feel like I have constant PMT) possibly because this child just really knows how to push my buttons. I find that it helps to remind yourself that so many mums feel at a total loss about what to do too and that no one of any worth is judging you. Also, you know what? Don't feel pressured that you have a half full trolly and need to complete the shop and pay. Very few people would even notice if you just parked the trolly and walked out
Oh and also... if you can bite your tongue for the count of 10 the urge to scream often passes. I visualise flicking a switch... switching off the banshee mummy button
I does get easier, my 2 eldest I dont seem to scream at them as much these days being 5 and 7, my 4 year old is still going through the not listening thing. He will be looking at you as if he is listening, but ask him a question and I get a blank look.... It drives me absoloutly insane that I want to pull out my hair.
My DS is the same *sigh* the running away thing is driving me batty - thinks it is all a big game but I suppose when you're 2 it is! Coles have this cute little mini trolleys now - perhaps give him a list with pictures or cut out the labels on old boxes of products you buy and put him in charge at over 2.5 yrs I reckon it might work... I tried with my DS but he's not quite ready, he did give it a read hot go till he spotted chocolate guess what the trolley is full of.. so he is in trolley seat - kicking and screaming and me trying my best not to yell whilst protecting his 3 month old brother from it all!
Here is to hoping the phase ends soon - or I will loose my voice!
I think at some stage we all seem to find ourselves turning into a screaming monster. Especially on days when we are tired, busy and the kids push every button they can. You are definitely not alone
A friend on mine had a DD toddler that was completely out of control so she did a Positive Parenting course which was run by the local council, it only cost $20 which was for the workbook. The change in her DD within a few months was astounding. She became an absolute pleasure to be around and I have barely heard mum raise her voice since. I understand that many councils throughout Australia run this course. I have done the course and I can honestly say it is well worth it. If you are interested in something like this then I would start with contacting your local Maternal Health Nurses as they would know what is in your area.
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