I let an innocent comment get under my skin

[sloane]

It's hard not to overthink sometimes. Fwiw, ds woke every 1.5 hours till he was 2 and then within a couple of months was sleeping 11 hours straight. Now at almost 5 he sleeps so deeply that dp and I go into shock if he does wake during ther night dd is 26 months and still wakes 2-3 times a night and feeds back to sleep. Once I've finished my assignment i'm going to stop feeding her overnight because I've had enough. She might still wake but I am ready for cuddles instead

[HotI]

My first two kids were wakeful kids who liked being with mum and dad. Still do. My 3rd has slept for longer periods at a much younger age. It's not because she is my 3rd, or i am more relaxed, or know what to do this time. Just a different child, with a different personality and different needs. I know i questioned whether it was me doing it wrong, especially when #2 was similar to #1, (and i sometimes still do on days when baby is not as settled), but when i am not sleep deprived i realise that i didn't cause sleep difficulties, and i did (and do) the best i can so we all survive and thrive.

[luna moth]

I had to stop going to the CHN. I would come home and cry so much that it just wasn't conducive to health. My GP is eons better - cares about actual health, not charts, or hours slept or other ridiculous and highly variable irrelevant metrics. My 18 month old sleeps through the night sometimes. I don't know how often. I don't care. Between the two kids I haven't slept through in so long that I don't even notice the exhaustion anymore. And despite what the charts might say, my kids are actually growing waaaay too fast.