You could call that place and find out what the programme is. I don't think they'll criticise your parenting. That wouldn't be a good foot to start on. You would want to make sure that their methods sit comfortably with you and DH and the way you parent. No good if the tell you to lock her in her room or drug her or something, iykwim.

The lack of sleep must be very hard on your DH, and you too. My DS1 has just started to have massive sleeps again - about 11-13 hours per day, so she must be exhausted too.

I know she's still only little, but what are her reasoning skills like? Have you had a chat to her? I know my DS is afraid of the dark, and cats. I have no idea why. Also a friend had to take the dinosaur that lived in our toilet home with him in the boot of his car one day. Two grown men wrestling an imaginary dinosaur into a car .

I can't believe you've been in Tassie for 2 years! Time flies!