I think my daughter is dyslexic :(

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No, that doesn't sound dyslexic. Dyslexia is not "can't read" - it is a phonological processing disorder. Which means that sound processing is difficult. It is characterised by yes, not being able to read well, but also poor memory, difficulty with phonemes (words that sound the same but have different meanings) and poor auditory memory.

Early to speak and reciting books is a good sign your child isn't dyslexic.

Flashcards are, IMO, a waste of time. A child will read when a child wants to read. My DS is almost 5 and is just starting to understand letters, despite me reading to him and pointing out letters all the time, me reading letters on demand when we're out, singing the ABC to him as a lullaby some nights... he could recognise the initial letter of his name and his friends' names at age 4, he can now, after 8 weeks of school, recognise about 1/3 to 1/2 of the alphabet. (Yes, some children are hyperlexic and can read before they go to school - quite often it means they have strange brain chemistry or really pushy parents; both can be a blessing and a curse.)

Although initally concerned about dyslexia when he was younger as both my DH and my Dad are dyslexic (DH severely, Dad mildly), I researched this a LOT (including doing some research for Uni on it) and can confidently say DS is not showing signs of dyslexia, just an unwillingness to recognise the letter "t" at the moment.

eta- sorry, missed one of your points.

If you do want your child to read and recognise letters, start with the first letter of her name. Point it out EVERYWHERE you go and not just flashcards. DS has taken ownership of the local supermarket as it starts with "his" letter. He recognises letters by tying them to people - "that's Fred's letter" for F, for example. "That's the hot/cold letter" in the bathroom is fantastic, he knows what the taps do! Plus by ensuring you pick sounds that start with the phonetic sound (F for Fred and not P for Phred, for example) your child can link the initial sound to the shape of the letter, it will have more meaning for the child and when the child comes to read letters, the initial sound link "that's Fred's letter... Fred starts with a "fuh" sound... that letter shape sounds like "fuh".

And don't teach ayh, bee, cee - teach ah, buh, cuh as those are the phonic sounds that will help your daughter decode words.

Liebs learns best by songs. So "sss, snake is in the grass" or "ah, ah, ants on your arm, ants on your arm" or "kite is the air, kuh kuh kuh" are all ones we've been singing today - and songs he learnt at school for learning letters.