Thankyou ladies,
not words are blunt as it has shown me that ive become one of thoses pressuring mums!

dd is great with hands on stuff like arts and crafts and has a flare for paying attention when I read.

I really should be looking at that instead of negavtive.

thanks heaps for clearing up the dylexia side the flying butter and I will definitely try what you suggested in regards to her first initial.