I've had 2 kids the have pushed me to my limits with sleep deprivation and it is a horrible horrible experience. Makes it nearly impossible to enjoy your baby or mothering of them or feel like you are doing a good job with your other child. What I also found difficult second time around was my doctors and MCHN reluctance to refer me to any services because it I was a 2nd time Mum and had been to sleep school first time around so I should know what to do, it was just a matter of doing it. This approach was totally frustrating as if I could have I would have being doing something different but by then I was just in survival mode trying to get to the end of each day. When I reached breaking point I had to look at other options outside the box like getting a regular babysitter for a period of time so I could catch up on some sleep or finding someone to come into our home to run a sleeping program which we would have had to pay for but at that point in time I would have paid anything to make it all stop.

In the end we made a plan of steps and time frame for getting help so I knew there was a light at the end of then tunnel. We decided initially we would try for a week of DH stepping up more and tackling the night together instead of it being only me responsible for the night this improved my feeling of support. If that didn't work then we were going to push for a return to sleep school and if that wasn't successful pay for the in home service. In the end we managed to sort it out at home but it wasn't a quick fix my DD was older than yours and while there were improvements in the first week it took time to change things.

It is a hard, hard road and I think your idea of seeing another Dr that might be more helpful and supportive is a great idea. Hope things improve soon.