I'm a useless mum

[CrazyLady]

Was going to suggest reflux also, I really feel for you. The first 9 weeks of Charlie's life she had undiagnosed silent reflux and it was hell. I verged pnd from the sleep deprivation. I can't get my little one into the cot of a day and she sleeps on me but i feel that the security she gets of a day helps. She sleeps through the night on days where i hold her more.

My cousin uses the sling to stop her baby's silent reflux during the day and it's the only way she can settle her. Some babies need more cuddles I think. I know it's frustrating but it will get easier with time. it's hard being lost and sleep deprived. Motherhood isn't an easy thing to adjust to but it's very rewarding. It's been the most exhausting job I've had to date but I wouldn't trade my high maintenance baby for the world!

HTH

[Nai]

You are so not a useless mum! Both of you are still learning and it's not easy! Even with #2 I was feeling a bit lost all over again as the girls were so different from each other.

DD2 would not settle in her cradle during the day at all for the first 8 weeks so I got her to sleep using the sling and carrying her around for hours on end. She wouldn't sleep if I sat down so I had to stand up while she slept. I did my shopping and walked the dog while she got sleep. My best effort was to bake a banana cake with DD1 while DD2 was sleeping in the sling

However, we persisted with the cradle. She started by sleeping 5 minutes before crying to get up, then 10 min and so on.

I would also get her checked for reflux. DD2 is a chucker but it doesn't bother her at all unless she has wind. So it could also be that she is having trouble getting the wind up.

Be kind to yourself - it is a huge learning curve for you and your DD