While I am soooo excted about TTC and even getting preg - little things just make me wonder! I know that I will have time for both and I have more than enough love.. just get worried about how things will change!
KL - I love the idea of involving Bella in all the scans and things! Great idea!!
I'm going through the same thing at the moment, and it's so nice to know that I'm not the only one feeling like this!!
It's taken a long time for me to even contemplate having another bub, but I've started looking at the bigger picture and of what I'm giving my DS (a sibling, a mate, someone to play with etc) rather than what I'm taking away from him. Sure, the first year or two are going to be tough, and I won't have as much time as I do now, but it won't be forever and I'm sure I'll definitely have enough love for both.
Thanks for starting this thread, it's made me feel so much better knowing I'm not alone
Totally normal. You're right though, I think each and everyone of us has worried about this at some point.
I have no idea how, but you do manage.
Imagine how much you love Bella now....with two there isn't half each, there's twice as much.
Nothing like a cuddle from DD after a hard day's work!
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I think everyone has feelings of sadness when you know things will change around your comfort zone. As you can see im ttc #2 but for me i feel sad that i may not give DD a brother or sister as I know she will be a great big Sister.
I feel sad knowing that she's going to grow up and being left out because most of my friends and brothers and sisters are far from having children any time soon.
We always worry, I guess its just human nature to do so.
I'm sure you will definitely have lots of love for all your children and your DD will always have a special place in you and your DH's heart (as with all first borns =)
I didn't have the same level of concern that you did when we were TTC but I am now starting to worry about it now that #2 is almost here! I know it will all be fine and plenty of mums have done it and continue to do it, but I am still worrying!
I think it is great to look at it from the point of view of the firstborn and what you are giving them, as one of the PPs said, which I hadn't quite done yet.
I love my big sister - we are so close, she's my best friend after DH and I am so excited to be giving DD that same sort of relationship - even though its a brother for her! Siblings share so much, including mum and dad's love
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