wow, no way would i want that child near my bub. I understand that he is only little to but he is old enough to understand what is right from wrong. Explain to your DH that you are concerned for your little one, not only in the aspect of getting hurt but also that she may start to rolemodel actions and words from her cousin and you really dnt want your childs first word to be B****! Goodluck in your decisions but i stand behind you 100% you are not overreacting!