Just one baby?

[MummaSue]

Thanks so much for the response guys, good to know I'm not alone - I certainly am when it comes to people IRL.

We've only just had missy and already people ask when we're going to have another one. They look at me like I've got 2 heads when I say that we may not. It's like it's totally inconceivable (pun intended) to some folks.

And not everyone knows of our infertility issues so i guess they just think that I'll be popping babies out now that the first one is here. Not sure I'd do that even if I could!

Thanks again, it's food for thought hey?
Sue x

[MumtoA]

Hey hun,

I am an only child like R.Elf and i to am completely normal as well!!! I went through a stage when i was younger (like primary years) where i would have loved a sibling but i grew out of it pretty quickly! My parents always ensured that i was allowed to have lots of time with friends and being an only child i got to do a lot of things that my friends from big families didn't - ie. going to Disneyland!! I was also in day care from a fairly young age as my mum had to go back to work so i learned quickly how to play positively with other children...mum said that people would often comment on how well adjusted i was - god only knows what they thought i should be like!
Since having my DD - she is the same age as your little one - i can see why people choose to have only the one. I have actually considered only having one, however my DH would be pretty devastated. Being a mum is so hard sometimes and my DD caused a bit of damage on her way out so the thought of having to go through it all again is daunting to say the least!!!
As an only child, my only suggestion is as they get older it can be hard to not be to overly protective and involved in every aspect of their lives. At times, especially as a teenager and young adult i just wanted my parents to leave me alone and concentrate on something else besides me!!!
At the end of the day i believe that the decision to have one bubba is ours only so good luck and enjoy everything with your missy moo!

[NaeNae]

Since having my DD - she is the same age as your little one - i can see why people choose to have only the one. I have actually considered only having one, however my DH would be pretty devastated. Being a mum is so hard sometimes and my DD caused a bit of damage on her way out so the thought of having to go through it all again is daunting to say the least!!!

Just had to pop back in to say one thing - when DD was at the same age (3 months) I was saying the EXACT same thing - nup she can be an only child, I don't want any more, people who go back for 2nds and more are nuts blah blah blah ..... NOW DD is nearly 9 months and I cannot wait for AF to come back because I want to go again. For couples who do not have fertility issues I think just wait until bubba is 6-12 months before making that decision coz really the first 3 months are pretty hard, especially if you've had losses in the lead up to your bub being born.

For couples who have fertility issues I can completely understand why they decide to only have one and sometimes that decision is made for them.

AT the end of the day you need to weigh up what is right for your family unit. Like someone above said, having one can also lead to more opportunities like family holidays (I wish we went to Disneyland lol)

Nae x x x

[HotI]

We've only just had missy and already people ask when we're going to have another one. They look at me like I've got 2 heads when I say that we may not. It's like it's totally inconceivable (pun intended) to some folks.

it's a bit wierd, eh? i'm still recovering, and just enjoying watching my little one grow and explore for now. someone asked us when number 2 was coming along- i just said 'when DH grows a uterus, he is carrying the next one'

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Oh and for anyone who says "I'm an only child so I had one child" or "I had 12 siblings so we're having a big family" you do NOT have to do what your immediate family was like. I'm an only. Everyone else with kids in my family had two, but WAY later than me so I was a teenager when they were born. Various friends have one child, maybe two. I have three ... I didn't know anyone else with three, I've never seen the dynamics of a three-child family in action, let alone how they fit three into their house. It is completely new territory.

Is this a problem? No. So it won't be a problem with any other number of children either

[goddessofdawn]

Just wanted to say thanks for this thread. I have been on other forums (which I no longer visit) which said horrible things, like only children act like adults (this was said in a negative, horrible way) and that basically it is wrong to only have 1 child if you are able to conceive again. My DD will be an only child and she will be just fine.