Hi Ella Ella - I agree with PP. Just let bubs sleep on Mummy! I had to do it with my bub and now I miss it. Enjoy it while you can. Forget everything else. This time is so precious. Eventually, I moved bub from me to his cot and he stayed asleep but it took weeks. Later, I found he slept in the car capsule (in the house) during the day - I think because he was all snuggled in. Good luck. Don't expect too much too soon. Bubs just loves being with you.
Thanks for all your replies. I now feel like it is OK for him to sleep on me. It's so easy to feel like you are failing but when you know others are or would do the same then it helps.
We have the Basinett on an angle (under two telephone books) and he doesn't like it in there still so we have no invested in a hammock and yesterday after a couple of hours trying to get him to settle we managed to get him to sleep in it for a good 2 hours. One thing we have noticed with him is that if he sleeps on his back (we saw the pattern in the hammock yesterday) his reflux plays up on him and he has a pattern of moan, groan, lets out a yelp, his face goes red almost purple from pushing or squeezing then he sleeps silently for about 7minutes (my husband timed this) then the cycle starts again. He is asleep (I think) but the noises that come from he are really disturbing.
He slept on me last night and when he does he has a good 4 hours between feeds and he makes very little noise! We are seeing our pead today so i'll be asking about this. When he is awake and gets reflux he goes the red purple colour and the screams that come out are of pain. I like to think I know what his cries mean now i.e food, dirty nappy, tired etc.
We bought an Ergo carrier aswell which we are going to start using in the next couple of weeks so i may be able to get some things done around the house (we tried him in it and even with the infant insert folded he is still a little too small).
Dreading the move to the Cot!
Thank you all so much for getting back to me. Coming from Wales in the UK i don't have any family here and Belly Belly has been a life line for me (us).
Thanks again and if you have any other hinters please let me know :-)
Its so easy to think you're doing the wrong thing isn't it. I honestly think the most important thing for a new mum to learn is that if what she is doing is working for her baby, then she can't be doing the wrong thing. Hang in there. You will get the hang of it really quickly and in a few short weeks you will start feeling as confident and competent as the other mothers you see around and envy at this point.
That's great that your DS is sleeping on you so well. Like I said above, my DD slept on me for months. Reflux is such a nasty thing for such tiny little bodies. Hopefully your paed will have some suggestions to improve things for your DS. How are you putting your DS into the ergo? I know there are two explanations on the DVD and I found one worked for me and one didn't. I had DD#2 in the ergo from birth and she was a fairly little girl. I put the shoulder straps on loosely and then wrapped the insert around DD like a blanket. I then slotted her in the insert into the carrier with her head against my left bb and her feet hanging (barely) through the bottom right side of the carrier. Then do up the "chest" strap and tighten the shoulder straps so that he is really nice and snug against you. It does take a bit of jiggling sometimes. Give it a go and let me know if you still have problems.
As for dreading the cot, don't worry about it. There's nothing saying your DS has to be in the cot so just forget you've got it for a little while. The time will come when he (and you) are ready. Until then, go with what works.
Good luck. It must be very hard for you on your own out here. The ladies on BB are so incredibly helpful and we all have meet ups so whatever State you're in, when you're ready check out the member meet ups and maybe get to know some of us in person.
I recommend trying a baby hammock too, it was a life saver for us when we had DS1. He would only sleep on me and I became so exhausted. He loved his hammock and he became a brilliant sleeper!
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