Leaving bub - how old?

[Novella]

Could you go to the Ceremony only and get MIL to come with you? I know it's a long drive for only the ceremony but if you are close maybe that is something you could consider

I had left both dd's overnight with my parents at that age as I was comfertable doing that they both took EBM fine.

Good luck making your decision

[sepata]

He definitely can't come. I messaged my cousin the other day, I said:

"Hey cousin and fiance,

Just wanted to touch base with you and confirm if by 'child-free reception' you also mean baby-free reception? As a baby Isaiah is still very dependant on me for his nutrition and comfort, and I didn't want to bring him along without checking with you first.

Cheers,

sepata

PS If you have any concerns about him crawling around or being disruptive, I am more than happy to wear him the entire time to resolve this concern"

He replied:

"Hi sepata,

I just wanted to confirm with you that "child-free" also includes babies. We understand that the nature of this request can provide some difficulties at times, but it would be great if you could make other arrangements for Isaiah to be taken care of.

We apologise for the inconvenience, but we know that if we say yes to you, being fair means saying yes to everybody, and with the amount of people we know who have kids around Isaiahs age, there could well be a need for a nursery on the night! With all of this in our mind, this is why we asked if everyone could make alternative arrangements.

I really hope this doesn't prevent you and Brad coming to the reception! We really would love to have you there!

thanks,

Cousin"

So no, he can't come, even if I kept him in a sling/wrap all night

I see it from their perspective, as a young childless (and not to sound mean, self-absorbed) couple, they really have no idea of what they are asking, but I would have thought that my message would've hopefully put it into perspective for them.

I've spoken to hubby about it again this morning, and I'm pretty sure we've made the decision not to go. We're still considering the options for the ceremony, but the reception is almost 100% definitely a no.