My DS is 2 and I couldn't imagine leaving him overnight. He still needs me in the night. Does your husband understand about the biological bond between a baby and mother. It took my DH a little while to understand it. He used to carry DS in a sling when he was newborn and I used to get all anxious, wanting to hold MY baby! And when he was around his parents and they criticised my 'constant feeding' we would argue because he was even slower to give me the baby back. I look back on it now and I should have just told everyone to go to hell as I am the MUMMY and my instincts were right just like a mummy lion, gorilla, cat etc would rip apart anyone who tried to take away her babies for even a minute!! OUr society is not really good with the mother and baby bond unfortunately.
If she wants to help, the best thing she can do is take care of the household chores for you so you can sit on the couch and be with your baby. I don't understand why people think that taking the baby away from the mother is the only way to help. You can say thank-you for the offer and in the future that may be useful, but right right you need to be with him so you can learn his cues, connect with him and get the feeding just right. As he grows there will be plenty of time for hugs and time with him alone. It is a tricky time for the MIL she is trying to find her new place in the family, which is no longer the mother but now the grandmother, and some women adjusting to this new way of being can cause issues, it's important for you to feel supported by your partner, even if he doesn't always agree with you, at the end of the day you are adjusting to a huge new role of motherhood and it's a journey that changes, but it's important for you to be supported and follow your intuition!
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