We left DD with my ILs while I had DS, although I went into labour at 6am and he was born at 9am so really, we didn't need to, but I wanted to spend a night with just my new bub in hospital. DD was 16 months at that point. She'd spent a lot of time there, they had a proper bed for her, it was comfortable for her, my MIL didn't mind getting up in the middle of the night to her nor did she mind starting the day at 5am when DD decided it was time to get up
It isn't an easy thing, taking a child overnight, before I reckon about 3yo. They often still have needs overnight... it can be hard for anyone who isn't the parent to respond to them.
We haven't left DS anywhere yet - he's 19mths.
I would just say to MIL "Thank you so much for the offer! That is incredibly generous of you! However, I'm not going to be able to leave him anywhere for a while as he needs to feed overnight and won't take a bottle, sorry!"
We left DD overnight at 12 weeks (we'd been home nearly 6 weeks). But, we had concert tickets booked for nearly 12 months and we couldn't miss the concert. It was the opportunity of a lifetime and the band had since gone on a indefinate break.
We've left her a few times. Only ever with my parents, as they know her routine and what she can and can't eat. They were also the only people trusted when DD was on all her medications.
DS is 4 in March and he has never had a sleepover. For me, I get up to DS and comfort him straightaway and, I don't trust other people to do that. I hate the idea that they would let him cry for however long when I wouldn't do that if he woke up through the night (especially in a different environment to what he use to, I believe he would be disorientated and scared if it wasn't handled right)
I have had a few nights away but OH has always looked after DS and OH has been away overnight heaps but I was there.
I don't think it is an insult to his family that you don't want to let your LO stay with your IL's. This is your baby and it is upto you when you are ready to let her sleep anywhere else.
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