I don't know what to do about my 3 year old, i can only put it down to laziness.... what do you make of the following behaviours:

* "Packing up" this is a nightmare. No matter how many times i show him how to pack up, where things go, and even help him, he just refuses making excuses such as "i need you to show me/help me". I then show/help him again, and he just watches me, and then does nothing. Even the promise of getting the leggo box out isn't enough to entice him in to packing up.

Packing up has not really been an issue for me until recently when my MIL stayed here and said that he needs to pack one set of toys away until he gets another out. I was just used to living with toys constantly strewn through the lounge (i assumed thats what others with 2 under 3 are like??) She's convinced me though that i need to teach him to pack up otherwise he'll never learn.

What am i doing wrong? how can i get him to pack up?

The other issue that i think is due to laziness is that although he is capable of going to the toilet by himself physically, he still expects me to help him. This includes, wiping, pulling up his pants and flushing. I've gotten to the point of trying to get him to pull his pants up with his own hands but he just gets upset and says "no mumma, you help me". I can't figure this one out....?