I too feel your pain. DD is very very fussy and Drs say she is normal and will eat it eventually if she is hungry enough but IMO she is not normal and has become very sick from not eating, low iron and almost anaemic, so we had to find things she would eat and try to make it healthy, for example, she will eat lasagne so I puree vegetables and put them in, grating wont do coz she will see them and pick them out, spaghetti bolognese is also a hit with her and I use the same sauce as lasagne so I do the exact same thing and puree the veg.

So she will eat, nuggets, chips, lamb chops, lasagne, spaghetti bolognese, bread, cheese, vegemite, steak, a little mashed potato, plain white rice, 2 minute noodles, she will eat vegetable soup but I have to strain it because she wont eat the chunks.

So our meal revolve around what she will eat.

What I will suggest to have something he will like one night then some you and the rest of the family like the next that way you know he will be eating a good dinner every second day and hopefully he will start to try the things you eat on the other days.

If he will eat mashed potato you can puree cauliflour or zucchini (skin removed) or any white veg and put it in, bolognese sause I will use whatever veg I have (even just frozen mixed veg if I dont have any fresh) and puree it and put it in. The soup is obviously good even if it is strained as the goodness from the vege's are in the liquid.

She will eat a nice big bowl of Sustain cereal for breakfast which is good and has nuts and dried fruit etc so I figure she gets a little goodness from that coz she wont eat any fruit or veg whatsoever.

DS for me is ok, he will try stuff and I believe he is a normal fussy toddler who will eventually eat something if he is hungry.

I always put the salad and vegies in the middle of the table so if they ever want any they can help themselves. I find that if I ask them they will say no and sometimes crack up so its best to just have it there and let them decide when they want it.

Im hoping eventually it will get better.

So anyway, not sure if this has helped or not but hopefully maybe a little.