Hugs hun my son can let out a massive high pitched scream when he doesnt get own way or what he wants.
We have tryed ignoring him, telling him off. Have come to conclusion that he will grow out of it I know its hard to ride these things out but wil get easier,
My son doesn't just tantrum this noise - it's a great game too!
But when he's upset because of my actions, I hold him. I tell him "you're upset because Mammy did this." I tell him why I did it (eg today I took the glass of water away because I had wanted to drink from it; DS shouldn't put his hands in it; it isn't water-play time it's nearly dinner time. We do water play outside or in the bath, so DS shouldn't be splashing on the dining table. I'm not apologising for taking the water away. I know you're upset because you liked playing with the water, but Mammy and Daddy need drinks not playing. We'll calm down now and eat dinner.)
Took him about five minutes to calm down, during which time he was told he was loved and the food was nice... but that was a BAD tantrum from a very tired toddler. Normally he's calmed down within a minute. Tantrums are just about making their feelings heard - if you hear them, it does work pretty well in my experience.
Just like us, toddlers like to control their environment. A sudden change, for example a toy being removed or suddenly leaving the park, distresses them. It distresses me when DH wants me to leave somewhere with no warning. But their linguistic and mental skills aren't up to dealing with it, so they melt down. That's why we need to verbalise their feelings and validate them - but not give in to them.
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