the other wise mummies have offered all the advice I have.

The nine month age is notoriously bad for sleep. Just search for some of my past threads and you will see my own stress!

I know you have an ideal situation about where she sleeps but some sleep is better than none. This is a phase that's all. You will come out the other side, but in the meantime cuddle your little one, rock feed or cosleep or whatever gets you through!! You never know, we loved having dd in bed with us do much she's still there! I can't convince dh to move her even though he was hesitant at first!!

This too shall pass!! Sending sleepy vibes